There are various issues surrounding women. There is pressure to look good, maintain an acceptable weight dictated by society, become a good mother and wife, get a career, and juggle different responsibilities, among others. In other words, you need to play different roles to please everyone around you. Or be a superwoman if you can.
That’s fine. However, the problem is you start to forget yourself and strive less to become who you really are as a person. You forget that you also have needs and wants that need your attention. That shouldn’t be the case.
Starting today, you need to be comfortable in your own skin, and stick with who you really are. The question now is how do you do it? The truth is it’s not too complicated to be comfortable in your own skin.
All you need is to do these 10 simple things and you will find that comforting, both physical and mental, in no time.
1. Take Off Your Clothes
This is the first step to make you feel more comfortable living in your own skin. However, it’s not as simple as taking off your clothes and looking at yourself in front of the mirror. This should be more than that.
When you are home alone or in your own room, be nude. Pretend you are a model who lived during the Renaissance times, dance around and just go crazy.
Appreciate and enjoy your skin, including your flaws. It doesn’t matter if you have cellulite or stretch marks, or your boobs are not that big. The important thing is to be confident with what you have, emphasize on your assets and work on your flaws.
Just make sure to lock the doors and close the curtains first.
2. Appreciate Your Body
How often do you masturbate? If you rarely find time to touch and give pleasure to yourself, then you might have issues with your own skin. By physically touching your own body in a sensual manner, you will learn to appreciate your body more.
Caress your body the way you want your man to do it. Don’t hold back and keep things as sexy as possible. However, don’t just settle with touching yourself down there.
Take your time while taking a shower. Run your fingers against your body, starting with your neck and all the way down to your feet. Lather your skin with your favorite soap.
In other words, enjoy the silky smooth feel of your skin.
3. Be Authentic
One of the reasons why people are having identity crisis is because they don’t know who they are as a person. In fact, being yourself sounds so easy, but it is so difficult for most people to do.
There are times where you may not know who you are and what role should you play, since a lot is expected from you. In the sea of pretentious and fake people, now is the perfect time to be authentic.
What Does This Mean?
This means being true to yourself. It’s about getting into your inner self and sticking to who you are as a person. It’s about going deeper into your heart and soul and not worrying about what other people will think or expect you to do. Once you become authentic and remain true to yourself, you become a better person. You become more comfortable in your own skin as well, which could translate in your overall well-being.
It may not seem a lot, but who knows. Being authentic could be your ticket to success and happiness.
4. Try To Do Things Alone
Are you always the type of person who is always out with friends and surrounded by people? Being a social butterfly has its rewards. It is fun, crazy and makes you do things you didn’t expect you could do, because you have a backup.
However, there are times when you need to be alone and do things all by yourself. It’s not about being a loner or making yourself look like you have no friends.
Sometimes, doing things on your own makes you more comfortable in your own skin. You are able to maximize your strengths and assets, and test your limits. It makes you realize that you are capable of doing something, even without help from other people.
That’s not all. You also get the spotlight. This could be healthy, especially when people who tend to make themselves the center of attention surround you. At least you don’t have to worry about competing with other people.
5. Put On Some Makeup
It’s so easy to say, but surprisingly, not all women know the difference between eyeliner, mascara and eye shadow.
Okay, maybe that is exaggerating. Still, not everyone could do her own makeup. In fact, there are women who don’t even wear it.
If you are one of them, then don’t worry. This doesn’t make you less of a woman. Still, it won’t hurt if you put on some blush, mascara and lipstick every time you go out. You need to impress someone that you look good – and that someone is you. Once you are confident on the outside, you become confident within, which makes you comfortable in your own skin, too.
More importantly, makeup could be fun, so go ahead and try it.
6. Surround Yourself With Women Your Size
Birds of the same feather flock together, so they say.
Surrounding yourself with negative people and those who constantly make you feel bad about yourself won’t help with your self-confidence. Being positive is easy to say. The question now is how do you do this?
Do you remember those days when you put up posters of your favorite boy bands on your bedroom wall? Take those off and replace it with women your size. If you are curvy, a poster of Marilyn Monroe or Scarlett Johansson will do the trick. For the tall ones, Nicole Kidman or Charlize Theron will be best. For the petite ones, Eva Longoria is one of your options.
Once you surround yourself with beautiful women same as your size, you will realize how beautiful you are.
7. Love Yourself
Haven’t you heard? You need to love yourself first before you can share that love with other people.
You may be tired of hearing this, but loving yourself can be the quickest way to make yourself more comfortable with your own skin. This translates to better things such as a better job, a better love life and a better outlook on life.
Therefore, show some love. Believe in yourself and that you are worthy of whatever you have and are experiencing right now. Don’t forget about your needs and wants, too,since these are clear indicators of who you are.
8. Get A life
When was the last time you went out of the house, had a drink with girlfriends, and did not worry about what was left behind? If you can’t remember, then you need to get a life, and you need to get it now.
Going out of the house is the first step. Go to a coffee shop and have some quiet time, meet an old friend you haven’t seen for years, or say yes to an invitation to go out and party.
Being alone from time-to-time is okay. Still, don’t make this a habit. There’s nothing wrong with taking control of your time once in a while and do things you’ve been itching to do. You deserve a life, too.
9. Learn To Take Responsibility
It is easy for you to blame other people,or the problematic system every time things go wrong. However, did you even stop and take some time to reflect if you are also at fault?
Here’s the thing: some things are within your control. This means you need to do this in order to arrive at that. Otherwise, it would result in a totally different outcome.
The point is to take responsibility for the life you created for yourself. Stop pinning the blame on other people in case a problem arises. Keep in mind that you are responsible for whatever is happening in your life. Stop, breathe and acknowledge that the result is the product of your own actions, then take action.
10. Live Passionately
At the end of the day, it all boils down to you. Once you lived, breathed and put into action the first nine steps mentioned, then it’s time to learn how to live passionately.
Focus on your desires and wants, and do anything you can to head in that direction.
Can you remember what Paulo Coelho said in his book, The Alchemist? “When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it. This will make you more comfortable in your own skin because you know who you are as a person and what you want in life.
Being comfortable in your own skin is not as hard as it seems. It may be challenging at first, especially when you are surrounded by negativity. Once you kick that bad aura in your life and stick to these 10 tips, then you will surely find comfort in no time.